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Saturday, November 22, 2014

How To Stop Doing Dumb Things On Purpose [Examine Your Rituals - LifeMap]

Don't you hate doing dumb things? We all do.

Why?

Because when you do something dumb, there's usually a bad consequence that comes with doing it.

Sometimes you you do something dumb simply because you can't help it: You hit your thumb with a hammer (not smart) and it hurts like crazy, but you just couldn't stop yourself from doing it.

But there are other times when you do dumb things, but you dismiss their bad consequences because you enjoy doing the dumb thing and tend to reason that the consequences that come from doing it are really minor in the big picture of your life.

There's a word for this kind of thinking. It's called deception.

If you don't like the sound of that word, there's a reason for it...it's an awful word that's associated with things such as lying, fraud, and trickery - all things that essentially mean that what you see on the surface is a lot different than reality.

In other words, even if something is fun and the bad consequences of doing it seem minor, you need to remember that if you do it repeatedly, you better be prepared for a for huge pile o'pain that the law of compounding is going to eventually deliver to you.

Stop deceiving yourself that doing dumb things is OK - review this map and discover how to become smart again! :-)

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MAP CONTENT: Examine Your Rituals

“It’s the little things you do now that create the big things you get later.” - Unknown

Express It

Speak It

Speak what’s below out loud, with enthusiasm, certainty, and belief. Improvise what you say as much as you want (actually, this is preferred). Visualize what you say - see it in your head before the words leave your lips. Brackets contain instructions that explain something specific to do.

What, Why, and How

  • A ritual is something that you do/practice regularly. It may be something seemingly ‘small’, and you may ‘practice’ it without even realizing it.
  • Rituals can be both good/positive and bad/negative.
  • Negative rituals can include things such as:
    • Putting work before family
    • Rarely getting enough sleep
    • Eating a lot of processed foods
    • Associating with people who are negative
    • Beginning each day with no plan
    • Watching, reading, and talking about misery and negativity
    • Buying things on credit
    • Consuming a lot of caffeine
    • Pursuing recreation more than goals
    • Avoiding things that cause fear
    • Sitting too much
    • Sleeping late
    • Consuming too much sugar
    • Showing up late for appointments
    • Rarely exercising
    • Skipping meals
  • The reason why examining your rituals is so important is because anything you do repeatedly, even something seemingly ‘small’, has a compound effect in your life - it may not affect you in a big way right now, but if you continue to do it over the course of months or years, it eventually will have a huge impact somehow/someway.
  • Changing the small, negative rituals that you practice, can be the spark for huge, positive shifts in all areas of your life.

Teach It

  • Identify a negative ritual that you regularly practice (see the list above for ideas), and pretend you’re teaching yourself what it is (describe how you do it in detail), why you need to change it (give some specific good and bad consequences), and how to do it (specific and practical actions that can be taken to counteract or change the ritual).


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Wednesday, November 19, 2014

4 Steps For Turning What You Learn Into What You DO [Act On What You Learn - LifeMap]

Right now you have a bookshelf FULL of books that contain a lot of great ideas.

They've all become dog-eared, highlighted and indexed to the point where, given a minute or two, you can find and point to a specific idea without breaking a sweat!

Not only that, but you've been to seminar, after workshop, after lecture, and the quantity and quality of your notes is superb - to the extent where someone else could pick them up and easily learn virtually everything you learned. Yes, your notes are that good!

So your brain is full of all these great ideas, and you feel pretty dog-gonned good about that. But here's a question to ponder...

Are you doing anything with those ideas?

Well, not all of them, you say. How about 50% of them, or 10% of them? Or, have you become a book collector who thinks they're a student?

Let's get clear about something...

The power of an idea that you've learned has little to do with learning it.

The power of an idea that you've learned comes from doing something with it - taking action on it!

If you're not taking action on what you learn, and if it's not changing you in some way, the fact that you know it means very little in the grand scheme of your life.

This map contains a simple 4-step process for turning ideas into actions.

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MAP CONTENT: Act On What You Learn

“Knowledge without action is useless.” - Walter Evert Myer

Express It

Speak It

Speak what’s below out loud, with enthusiasm, certainty, and belief. Improvise what you say as much as you want (actually, this is preferred). Visualize what you say - see it in your head before the words leave your lips. Brackets contain instructions that explain something specific to do.

What, Why, and How
  • There is a big difference between capturing ideas and acting on them. Capturing ideas involves a lot of highlighting, underlining, and taking notes - which IS important - but acting on what you learn involves planning, doing, and changing who you are and what you do.
  • When you learn something, if it doesn’t affect or change who you are or what you do, then the fact that you learned it really has little value. For example:
    • If your thinking is always cloudy in the morning, and you discover that it’s because you consume too much sugar for breakfast (cereals, juices, donuts, etc.), your cloudy thinking won’t improve by reading another book or article. It will only improve if you take action on what you learned, and you minimize how much sugar you consume in the morning.
    • If your daily productivity stinks, and you’ve learned ideas and strategies for improving it, it will only get better if you act on what you learn, not if you simply consume more ideas and strategies.
  • Filling your head with tons of ideas by reading a lot of books (quantity) isn’t nearly as important as taking a selection of the best ideas that you discover (quality) and doing something with them! It’s better to take massive action than it is to have a massive bookshelf!
  • Taking action on an idea is the key to experiencing the benefits of that idea.
  • When you take action on an idea or strategy that you learn, you not only see that it really works, but you end up understanding why and how it works. This level of understanding gives you deeper insight to how the world works, which has a powerful effect on your thoughts, beliefs, and decisions.
  • When you:
    • Learn something valuable
  • Then you will:
    • Describe it: What it is, what it means, how it works
    • State why it matters/its benefits: What emotionally-compelling reasons there are for using/doing/believing it
    • Explain how you will use it: Including where and when you will use it, the steps or process of using it, and real-world scenarios when you’ll use it
    • Take action on it!

Explain it

  • Explain whether you’re currently better at capturing or acting on what you learn, then provide some specific examples that prove your belief one way or another.
  • Explain what you can specifically do to improve your ability and desire to act on what you learn.

Teach it

  • Identify something of real value that you recently learned and then: Describe it, state why it matters, and how you will specifically take action to use it.


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Sunday, November 16, 2014

Are You Feeding Good Or Bad Tribbles? [What You Feed Grows - What You Starve Dies - LifeMap]

If you're a geek, you likely know what a tribble is (from the original Star Trek series from the 60s).

If you're not a geek, I'm sure you're on the edge of your seat, curious beyond belief about what it is, so let me scratch your curiosity itch.

Definition of a tribble:

A tribble was a fuzzy little critter that looked innocent enough on its own. It could wiggle, purr, and respond to the people around it. It was a lot like a cat in the shape of a lump of a cat (Google it if you brilliant description just doesn't cut it for you).

In any case, at the beginning of the original Star Trek episode that tribbles starred in, they had a profound characteristic that you initially knew nothing about. But, by the end of the episode, this characteristic was clearly evident to the point where it had become overwhelming problem to everyone in the sector (geek-talk for 'place' or 'area').

You see, tribbles multiplied like crazy when they were fed, and I don't mean they they became math geniuses. I mean, 1 tribble turned into 10, 10 into 100, and so on.

As with most of the better episodes of Star Trek, there's an underlying lesson here...

In life, your thoughts and feelings are like tribbles - the ones you feed grow and grow and grow, and the ones you starve (or neglect), die.

Depending on what types of thoughts and feelings you feed regularly, this could be a really great thing, or a big part of why you're not getting the results you want in life.

This map helps you make a personal examination into what tribbles you're feeding, and how to starve the bad ones (they've GOT to go).

BONUS: Here's a video I found to help you better understand the 'trouble with tribbles'.


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MAP CONTENT: What You Feed Grows - What You Starve Dies

“Do you know what you get if you feed a tribble too much?...You get a whole bunch of hungry little tribbles.” - Dr. McCoy (Star Trek)

Express It

Speak It

Speak what’s below out loud, with enthusiasm, certainty, and belief. Improvise what you say as much as you want (actually, this is preferred). Visualize what you say - see it in your head before the words leave your lips. Brackets contain instructions that explain something specific to do.

What, Why, and How

  • A large part of what you experience (and avoid) in life is the result of what thoughts and emotions you choose to feed and give energy to, and which ones you starve, or refuse to think about and give into.
  • You feed things (positive or negative) in your life when you think, look, dwell, feel, justify, talk, or read about them. Part of what you feed comes from:
    • What you choose to watch (movies, TV shows, etc.)
    • What you choose to read (news, books, etc.)
    • What you choose to listen to, or talk about to others
  • You starve things (positive or negative) in your life when you avoid thinking, feeling, looking, dwelling, or talking about them.
  • When you feed one thing, you automatically starve its opposite. For example:
    • When you feed what’s positive and good, you automatically starve what’s negative and bad...and vice-versa
    • When you feed action, you starve fear...and vice-versa
    • Feed happiness, you starve sorrow...and vice-versa
    • Feed generosity, you starve lack...and vice-versa
  • The effects that you experience (either positive or negative) from what you feed are unavoidable. This means that you can’t neutralize the effects of feeding something negative by telling yourself ‘I’ll feed it, but I won’t let it bother me’ - it will affect you, on some level.
  • To experience (grow) more of something in your life (awesomeness, happiness, etc), you have to feed your mind and emotions things that promote that thing and starve the things that don’t. You are in control of what you give your time, energy, thoughts, and feelings to - It has little to do with what other people are doing, and a lot to do with what you feed.

Explain It

  • Identify the name of an emotion or experience you want more of in your life, and what specifically you will change about what you watch, read, talk about, listen to, think about, or act on to feed it.
  • Identify the name of an emotion or experience you want less of in your life, and what specifically you will change about what you watch, read, talk about, listen to, think about, or act on to starve it.
  • Read The Tale of Two Wolves (below) out loud, and explain the lesson of the story out loud.

Extras

The Tale Of Two Wolves

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all.

One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith."

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?"

The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."


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Thursday, November 13, 2014

5 Steps To Breathe Some New Life Into, Well...YOU! [Breathe Deeply - LifeMap]

If you want to be a better version of you (who doesn't), then take a deep breath...

Then take another one...

Then another...

It's that simple!

Yes, I know, you breathe OK right now - otherwise you'd be dead. But are you really breathing in a way that taps into the full potential that this simple and natural fueling process can have on you?

Probably not (sorry to be so blunt).

I'm sure if you owned a Ferrari, you wouldn't be content driving it 30 miles an hour everywhere, would you?

Well, you are the proud owner of an even more amazing and powerful machine - your body. Don't be content with 'driving it 30 miles an hour' everyday when the simple process of deep breathing can take your 'clunker' of a body and turn it into a hot rod!

This map teaches you a simple 5 step process to make it happen.

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MAP CONTENT: Breathe Deeply

“Improper breathing is the cause of most illnesses today.” - Dr. Andrew Weil

Express It

Speak It

Speak what’s below out loud, with enthusiasm, certainty, and belief. Improvise what you say as much as you want (actually, this is preferred). Visualize what you say - see it in your head before the words leave your lips. Brackets contain instructions that explain something specific to do.

What, Why, and How
  • Deep breathing is when you:
    • BEGIN by completely exhaling through your mouth
    • INHALE deeply through your nose for a count of 4
    • HOLD your breath for a count of 7
    • EXHALE through your mouth for a count of 8
    • REPEAT for a total of 4 breaths
  • Deep breathing has a lot of amazing benefits, including its ability to:
    • Detoxify your body
    • Increase your energy
    • Boost your mental abilities (clarity, concentration, etc.)
    • Improve your sleep
    • Minimize stress-related illnesses
    • Improve your mood
    • Enhance your digestion
    • Help you with weight-loss
    • Give you more stamina
    • Provide pain relief
    • Decrease wrinkles
    • Increase your flexibility
    • Reduce physical and mental fatigue
    • Strengthen your immune system
    • Make your heart stronger
    • Improve your posture
  • Your breath is quite literally your life force. Oxygen feeds every part of your body and over 70% of your body's waste is eliminated through your breathing and skin - deep breathing is awesome for your health!
  • When you:
    • Start your day: First thing in the morning
    • Have a free moment: When standing in line, driving in your car, sitting down to work, waiting for something to cook
    • Want to change how you feel: When you need a boost of energy, positivity, confidence, happiness
    • Notice your breathing
  • Then you will:
    • Breathe deeply

Explain It

  • Explain what specific benefit of deep breathing you especially like (see list above), and why that benefit matters to you.



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Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Ready To Give Up? Here's Why You Need To Push Just Little Bit More [Experience A Breakthrough - LifeMap]

Are you in the pursuit of something awesome in your life, but you're tempted to quit because:
  • You feel like you're just slamming your head against the wall
  • You're constantly frustrated beyond what any sane human should have to experience
  • Things that should seemingly be easy are harder than you can imagine
That's great news!

Wha..?!?

That's right, that's fantastic news!

Why? Because despite your high blood pressure and sleepless nights, you're this ---> <--- close to experiencing success.

There's a reason why you feel exhausted and you've reached your breaking point, and this map explains what's going on, and why you need push a just a tiny-bit more.

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MAP CONTENT: Experience A Breakthrough

“The temptation to quit will always be the greatest right before you're about to succeed.” - Unknown

Express It

Speak It

Speak what’s below out loud, with enthusiasm, certainty, and belief. Improvise what you say as much as you want (actually, this is preferred). Visualize what you say - see it in your head before the words leave your lips. Brackets contain instructions that explain something specific to do.

What, Why, and How
  • A breakthrough is the moment that you grow as a person so much that your previous comfort zone can no longer contain you!
  • It’s pretty common to feel uncomfortable and frustrated just before a breakthrough. This is due to the resistance that comes from pushing against the boundary of your current comfort zone - it’s just how it works.
  • Even achieving something good isn’t always easy, which seems crazy because you think that if it’s good, it should also be easy - it isn’t.
  • You’re not the only one who experiences the resistance that comes from growing... the best athletes, teachers, and leaders have all experienced the same thing to achieve goals of significance.
  • A breakthrough happens in 4 stages, which are:
    • Comfort: At this stage, you feel good about life, you’re relatively comfortable - you’re not attempting to move outside of your current comfort zone.
    • Growth: At this stage, you decide you want to become more than what you are right now - you have the desire to grow, and you begin the growing process, doing something new or better.
    • Resistance: Eventually, as you continue to grow, you begin to feel massive resistance, which increases the more you attempt to grow beyond your current comfort zone. At this stage, you really begin to feel uncomfortable, and what you hoped was a positive change is REALLY beginning to feel negative and frustrating!
    • BREAKTHROUGH: With a strong determination to continue to grow, you don’t let the pressure and resistance from growing beyond your comfort zone discourage or slow you down. At some point, when you feel so close to giving up, you finally grow to a level where your current comfort zone can no longer contain you, so you ‘break through’ it. The instant you have a breakthrough, you immediately feel the release and exhilaration that comes with it. Then, you begin a Stage 1 again.
  • While breakthroughs are rarely easy, each time you have one, the next one is easier to achieve.
  • Knowing how a breakthrough works, helps you to understand that the resistance and frustration that you sometimes feel from trying to become a better person or practice a new skill is the result of you pushing against the boundary of your comfort zone - you expect it and welcome it, because it means that you’re close to making an awesome change in your life!
  • Whenever you set out to do something new, better, and awesome, you move forward knowing that there eventually comes a point where you feel like giving up, because it seems like the right thing to do. But, you continue to push with all you have, then push some more, until you achieve the breakthrough you expect to have!

Explain It

  • Explain something good you’re trying to achieve right now and the specific frustrations you might be experiencing as a result. Knowing what you now know about how breakthroughs work, describe how you will move forward to make your goal a reality.


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