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Wednesday, December 17, 2014

How To Destroy The Beast That's Causing Friction And Keeping You From Taking Action

I want you to look around your environment for something that is within your reach that has a practical use - something like a pen, water bottle, nail clippers, or something similar.

If were to ask you to use the item you identified for its intended purpose, how willing would you be to do it?
  • If I asked you to write with your name using your pen, you'd probably write it
  • If I asked you to take a swig of water from your bottle, you'd probably swig it
  • If I asked you to please clip your nails (you know they need it), you'd probably clip them (I hope)
Now let's change things up a bit...

Let's assume that your pen is downstairs, buried in a drawer beneath a bunch of coupons (you know who you are), or that your water bottle is in the sink because it needs cleaned, and that your nail clippers are 'somewhere in the car.'

I still want you to perform those same simple tasks - write, swig, and clip - but how willing are you do them now?

Based on this scenario, the chances of you completing these tasks has dropped significantly - even though the actual task itself hasn't changed.

What has changed? The amount of friction (also known as inconvenience) that now stands between you and your ability to complete the task.

  • You were willing to write with your pen if you could just grab it and go. But if you have to get up out of your chair and go look for it - then forget it!
  • You were willing to take a drink a water as long as the bottle was within your reach. But if you have to go wash it first - you'd rather dehydrate!
  • You were willing to clip your nails...you get the idea.

This action-destroying-monster pops its ugly head up in your life whenever and wherever you allow it. It can play a pretty significant role in your desire and ability to eat more healthy, be more productive, and generally kick butt!

But you're here, not because you want me to sing the praises of the many ways this beast slows you down, but because you want terminate the beast (in the nicest way possible)!

This LifeMap introduces you to a mindset known as clearing to neutral, which is nothing more than a tweak to the way your noggin' processes what to do when you complete a task.

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MAP CONTENT: Clear To Neutral

“A place for everything and everything in its place.” - Unknown

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What, Why, and How
  • What often slows you down (or even prevents you) from taking action on a task are hurdles (even small ones) that stand in the way of simply starting the task:
    • You probably won't cook a meal at home if you have to clean dishes and the kitchen (hurdles) before you can start cooking
    • You probably won't exercise when you get home from work if you have to search for your shoes and clean your workout clothes (hurdles) before you can start
    • You probably won't pay your bills if you have to find, open, and organize them all, as well as find and balance your checkbook first
  • Clearing to neutral means that when you finish a task, you perform a simple routine where you setup your environment for the next time you need to perform that task, so you can begin doing it the next time with little to no friction (see graphic below).
  • You setup your environment for next time by cleaning up what needs cleaned and putting things in their place.
  • The best time to set up your environment for successfully doing a task next time is while you still have the momentum that comes from doing the task this time! You’re already moving, and you’re clear about what needs to be in place for next time.
  • There's a fantastic sense of freedom that comes from knowing that you’ve set yourself up for success to complete important tasks in your life!
  • It requires a lot less time and energy to clear things to neutral than it does to deal with the many consequences that come from putting important things off.
  • When you leave your desk at the end of the day - you organize it to get tomorrow's work done
  • When you cook something - you clean up your mess
  • When you’re done with your computer - you close all programs
  • When you wear it - you wash it or hang it up for next time
  • When you empty something - you fill it back up
  • When you eat out of something - you wash it
  • When you sleep on your bed - you make it


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Wednesday, December 10, 2014

How To Easily Become A Force Of Power, Confidence, And Action In 2 Minutes Flat!

Stand up, right now, because you're about to become more powerful, and you're not going to want to be sitting down when it happens. Trust me. :-)

Are you ready?

Before we begin, let me just quickly explain what is about to happen.

Some of life's best strategies for enhancing how you think, feel, and what you do are also usually the simplest.

This strategy fits in that category. Actually, it belongs pretty close to the top of the list.

Why?

Because of these three factors:
  • It only takes two minutes to do
  • It involves something you naturally already know how to do
  • It's unbelievably effective at, as the headline of this post says, turning you into a force of power, confidence, and action.
What am I talking about?

Well, it's called doing a Power Pose, and it was developed by a Harvard Business School professor named Amy Cuddy.

Through her research, Dr. Amy has discovered that how you stand has a profound effect on your level of confidence and personal power because of what it does to your body on an internal/hormonal level.

That's right - standing a specific way can literally change who you are for the better.

  • CEOs use this technique
  • Entertainers and professional speakers use this technique
  • And as Dr. Amy has observed, even Linda Carter's TV-based Wonder Woman used this technique - it's part of what made her so wonderful!

The LifeMap below shows you how it's done (it's super-simple), and some of the best times to use it to become a force of power, confidence, and action in 2 minutes flat!

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MAP CONTENT: Power Pose

“Confidence is preparation. Everything else is beyond your control.” - Richard Kline

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What, Why, and How
  • A power pose is when you intentionally put your body in a physically and emotionally confident state. It involves:
    • An expansive stance - like you have when you’re excited and expressing joy
    • Square shoulders
    • Open arms and legs
    • Deep breathing
  • The opposite of a power pose - and something that drains you of confidence and power - often involves:
    • A shrinking stance
    • Hunched shoulders
    • Crossed arms and legs
    • Shallow breathing
  • Just before any activity that requires you to be your confident best, you avoid doing anything that puts your body into a weak pose (even something like checking your phone, which puts you in a shrinking stance with hunched shoulders and closed arms).
  • When you do a power pose, you look like you mean business!
  • You can actually generate confidence at will, simply by doing a power pose. How awesome is that!
  • Doing the power pose for 2 minutes:
    • Increases your testosterone (the power hormone): Which makes you feel more confident and assertive
    • Decreases your cortisol (the stress hormone): Which helps you eliminate anxiety and stress, and makes me feel more calm and in control
  • When you pretend to be powerful using a power pose, you actually feel powerful, because your body is convincing your brain that it is powerful!
  • Doing a power pose can even have an impact on your performance - it makes you more passionate, enthusiastic, captivating, authentic, comfortable, and you think more clearly.
  • Your body changes your mind - your mind changes your behavior - your behavior changes your outcomes (see graphic).
  • When you:
    • Start your day
    • Need a boost of confidence and power: Before a meeting, presentation, job interview, or starting an important conversation
    • Have a free moment: Standing in my office, reviewing my goals, or whenever
  • Then you will:
    • Spend 2 minutes doing a power pose (see graphic). As you do it, you will make sure you also feel powerful and confident.
    • TIP: To help you feel more powerful and confident while you do the pose, give yourself a pep-talk (preferably out loud) - describe what you’re excited about and why you’re excited about it, or talk about some of the fantastic benefits of being confident, fearless, passionate, authentic, excited, and so on.


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Friday, December 5, 2014

How Giving Massive Value To OTHERS Unleashes Awesomeness In YOUR Life

The universe is full of all kinds of laws and principles that, on the surface, seem a bit counterintuitive (it doesn't make sense, but it does).

You might be familiar with some of them.:
  • The more choices you give people, the less likely they'll make any choice. WHAT?!?
  • If you want more freedom - be more disciplined. HUH?!?
  • Questions are the answer. C'MON NOW!!
Here's another doozy, a seemingly counterintuitive principle that may be the grand-daddy of all counterintuitive principles:

If you want more out of life (we all do) - generously give more value to others.

In other words, if you want more, you've got to give more.

Seems kind of crazy doesn't it, but hey... I don't make up the facts, I just report them!

Because this is such a counterintuitive principle, it can be difficult to understand and believe as true. And where there's a lack of understanding and belief, there's a lack of action.

This is one principle in life that you most definitely, without a doubt, want to take action on.

Why?

Because it really represents the basis of how the flow of life works. And if you're not practicing it, you become like a hairball that clogs everything up - which causes good things to only drip into your own life, instead of flowing freely, like they should.

Let's face it, you don't want to be a hairball, am I right?

This LifeMap unveils what this principle is all about, why you need to practice it on a BIG-TIME scale, and finally, it explains to you the often secret way that it works.

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MAP CONTENT: Generously Give Value To Others

“You will get all you want in life, if you help enough other people get what they want.” - Zig Ziglar

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What, Why, and How
  • Generously giving value to others means that:
    • You think of others first: You focus on giving (to them) instead of getting (to you).
    • You give from your heart, not your surplus: You give because it's awesome, not because you have more than enough left over after your needs are met.
    • You’re an unstoppable force of giving: You give often and you give BIG!
    • You give, then you let go: After you give, you let it go, and feel great about your act of generosity. You don’t expect anything in return, and it's not up to you to control what happens to your gift. It's the act of giving, not how it’s received, that really matters.
  • Giving something doesn't mean 'giving up' something. Thomas Jefferson said, ‘A candle loses nothing when it lights another candle.’ This means that you lose nothing when giving something of real value to others. As a matter of fact, there’s an increase in brightness and energy in both your worlds.
  • What you give to others is the absolute best you have to give for providing massive value to them. It's not just something you value, but more importantly, it's something they value (it deeply affects their thinking, emotions, or both).
  • Giving to others isn't only a great way to live, but in the business world, it can be profitable!
  • Giving is one of the most heart-expanding and exhilarating feelings you can experience (see graphic).
  • When you give to others, you both win/benefit:
    • When you give valuable knowledge to others, you learn to understand and apply that knowledge better yourself
    • When you take the time to inspire others, you get inspired yourself
    • When you help others, it has a positive impact on how you feel and how you think. It can actually improve your mental outlook, health, and creativity
  • Giving often creates a chain reaction of awesomeness that you may not see the effects of immediately, but you will see them eventually!
  • The amount of goodness you enjoy in life is in direct proportion to the value you give others (see graphic).
  • People value others who make them feel better. If you help people feel happy, secure, important, and loved, or if you empower them to feel these things, they'll value you more.
  • Being a generous giver of value means that you pay close attention to the needs of others - what they want, what problems they have that you can solve, and what makes them feel special and unique.
  • You give generously of your knowledge, time, resources, and effort, and you look for opportunities to use them in the service of others.
  • You generously give value to others by:
    • Helping them: Solve problems and accomplish tasks
    • Teaching them: What you know
    • Inspiring them: Through personal experiences and stories
    • Creating things: That they enjoy and enhance their lives

Explain It

  • Describe out loud some abilities or resources that you have to give generously to others.


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Tuesday, December 2, 2014

'WOW!', Delivered In A Package Of A Single Sentence [Review Your Favorite Quotes - LifeMap]

Have you ever had the experience where you were listening to someone talk (a conversation, a seminar, etc) when all of a sudden - out of the blue - a single sentence was uttered that was so mind-boggling profound to you, that you instantly felt a change in your body at a deep level?

What happened?

What happened is that a thought that had deep meaning to you was put into a small little package, and like a laser beam, was quickly delivered right to your mind and heart (where change happens) in a way that pierced any doubts, fears, or judgements that normally would have blocked it from getting access to those areas.

This is the experience of hearing a great quote - and I don't just mean those that are printed in a book or listed online. I'm talking about any snippet of wisdom - printed, digitized, or spoken - that throws your value and belief system into a tizzy (look it up, tizzy is a real word).

On paper (or at least as it's described here), that experience sounds very disruptive and unpleasant, and depending on where you are in life, it can be.

But generally speaking, a great quote can quickly, and positively, affect your value and belief systems in a way, and with an intensity, that few other things can.

Sometimes, you can stumble across a quote that once you read it, you feel a rush of understanding, motivation, and even peace. But, despite the positive impact they have on you in the moment, that impact can quickly fade when you don't nurture it in someway, which brings us to the latest LifeMap I want to give you.

In this LifeMap, you'll not only be given a new way of looking at quotes (beyond that of being just a sentence of text containing an important lesson), but you'll learn how to leverage these tiny text power plants to continually tune and improve what you think, feel, and do!

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MAP CONTENT: Review Your Favorite Quotes

“Short sentences drawn from long experience.” - Miguel de Cervantes

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Speak It

Speak what’s below out loud, with enthusiasm, certainty, and belief. Improvise what you say as much as you want (actually, this is preferred). Visualize what you say - see it in your head before the words leave your lips. Brackets contain instructions that explain something specific to do.

What, Why, And How

  • At its core, a great quote often represents a belief that you want to shape how you think, feel, and act - believe a quote and it becomes your belief!
  • Since a great quote often represents a powerful and positive belief, the better you understand the message of the quote, the reasons it’s true, and how to apply it in your life - which a regular review of them helps you to do - the stronger it will shape your belief system.
  • Sometimes, because you keep a list of your favorite quotes, you use one to express your thoughts and feelings to others with incredible clarity and energy - it really enhances your ability to communicate with others.
  • You read quotes to turn sadness into happiness, difficulty into opportunity, confusion into understanding, and weakness into power!
  • When you:
    • Start your day, need inspiration or motivation, or whenever
  • Then you will:
    • Pick a quote and spend 1-2 minutes answering the following questions, out loud:
    • What is the message/lesson?
    • Why does it matter/what are the benefits of understanding and using it?
    • How can you specifically apply the lesson?
  • For example, when you read the quote, ‘Take the step, the bridge will be there’, you understand:
    • The lesson: Often, taking action (a step) toward accomplishing a significant goal requires a leap of faith. The path to accomplishing most significant things in life is rarely entirely visible from start to finish. The unfolding of the path typically only happens as you take action toward your goal.
    • Why it matters: Not understanding this means that you could completely refuse to take action, simply because you can't see how to reach the end of your goal at the start, which could prevent you from achieving some pretty awesome things in life.
    • How to apply it: When you have the desire to learn or achieve something significant, you clearly define your end goal, but realize that the steps of how to reach it will only become clear to you AFTER you begin taking action toward that goal, so you will always step forward, having faith that the next step you need to take after that will appear.

Explain It

  • Pick one of your favorite quotes, read it out loud, then spend 1-2 minutes: Describing the message/lesson it contains, the specific reason(s) why it’s important for you to understand that lesson, and some specific scenarios when you will apply that lesson.

Extras

Creating And Maintaining Your Collection

  • Keep them in a single location: A text document (such as Google Docs), notebook, or a sheet you keep on your desk.
  • Less is more: Focus on only collecting quotes and sayings that really affect you - not every one that is just pretty great!
  • Use email: When you discover a saying you love but you don't have access to the tool where you normally collect them, then grab your phone and send yourself a simple email containing the saying. Later, copy it from your email to your collection.


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Wednesday, November 26, 2014

How To Grab Someone Without Touching Them, And Speak To Them Without Saying A Word [Maintain Great Eye Contact - LifeMap]

I want you to think back about the last time you were standing in an elevator with a bunch of strangers.

In addition to the striking silence, which was accompanied by someone's occasional short sniff (why do people do that?), where were you and almost everyone else looking?

Your stare probably went in one of three directions: Up, down, or straight ahead. NEVER, EVER, EVER did you look in someone else's direction for fear you would... what?

For fear you would make eye contact with another human being. Yikes!!!

What's so scary, or uneasy about making eye contact - something that should be as natural as, well...making eye contact?

Well, intuitively, you know and understand that there's something special about eye contact that can immediately affect you in ways you may not be prepared to handle at that moment:
  • It generates an instant connection with the person you look at
  • It triggers an instant (sometimes strong) emotional feeling of some kind
  • It's overall just energizing, curious, and sometimes even intoxicating
In other words - eye contact is awesome, and sometimes that awesomeness catches you off guard.

But one thing is clear; you have no doubt that it is powerful.

Despite knowing this, it's easy to neglect using the power of your eyes in intentional ways that make your life, and the lives of the people you stare look at, better.

Let's change that, right now - in the blink of an eye (or at least several blinks of both your eyes).

This map discusses what great eye contact is, why it matters, and how to grab someone without touching them, and speak to them without saying a word.

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MAP CONTENT: Maintain Great Eye Contact

“Eye contact: how souls catch fire.” - Yahia Lababidi

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  • You look at others in the eye when you talk or listen to them.
  • Great eye contact is a trait shared by some of the best communicators in the world.
  • Eyes are one of the most powerful elements of human expression. They communicate attitudes and emotions, such as surprise, fear, love, compassion, doubt, and grief - a lot of which can be lost without eye contact (see graphic).
  • Looking people in the eye allows you to gauge their interest, agreement, curiosity, confusion, anger, or impatience, which helps you adapt your approach when teaching, influencing and motivating them.
  • Nothing tells another person (your spouse, your kids, your friends) that they matter to you more than when you look them in the eyes when they talk with you.
  • Your great eye contact conveys confidence that what you say is true and that you believe in it yourself. What you say has more power and force because of this!
  • Your great eye contact tells others that you’re trustworthy - you look at them because what you say is true, and you have nothing to hide!
  • When you:
    • Talk to a group
  • Then you will:
    • Make eye contact with, or focus on, one person for each sentence, or fragment of a sentence, then move on
  • When you:
    • Talk or listen to an individual: While eating, having coffee, during an interview
  • Then you will:
    • Keep your eyes normal: Relaxed and blinking occasionally
    • Maintain great eye contact without staring (which can appear aggressive): Every 2-4 seconds you will move your eyes to the side (not down) as if you’re thinking about what you want to say next, or reflecting on what they just said.
  • When you talk or listen to others, they will know and feel with absolute certainty that they are the most important person/people in your universe at that moment.
  • You put down your cellphone, tablet, and other digital devices when you find myself in situations where there's an opportunity to talk to others, especially people you really care about. This includes:
    • When you eat together
    • When you’re in the car together
  • To get comfortable with maintaining great eye contact, you:
    • Use the triangle method: Instead of looking directly into someone's eyes, you rotate my gaze every 5-10 seconds from one eye, to the other eye, then to the mouth, and back to the first eye (see graphic)
    • Use a mirror: Practice looking into your own eyes in the mirror


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